Your Result: Dismissive-Avoidant

You tend to value independence and self-reliance in relationships. Being able to handle things on your own likely feels the most natural for you, and you may prefer space when emotions or disagreements become intense.

At times, connection and emotional vulnerability can feel a bit overwhelming. You may notice yourself “pulling back” when relationships start becoming more emotionally intimate, even when you know you deeply care about the person.

This pattern often forms when emotional needs weren’t consistently met growing up, leading your nervous system to learn that relying on yourself felt safer than relying on others.

There’s nothing wrong with valuing independence, healthy relationships actually include a lot of it. And the goal isn’t losing that independence, but learning how to strike a balance between autonomy and connection.

The good news is that a strong relationship can (and should) be spacious and deeply connected.

Interdependence is the ability to maintain a healthy connection with another person while staying grounded in your own sense of self. You rely on yourself for emotional stability but also rely on your partner for support and shared growth.

I’ve spent over a decade researching what’s beneath attachment patterns and doing this work myself. I’ve personally moved from fearful avoidant to secure, and have since helped hundreds of women better understand these dynamics. I truly (truuuly) believe this is some of the most important inner work we can do.

If you’re interested in learning more about how to become securely attached, I’m currently building a masterclass on the topic:

True Interdependence: 25 Principles of a Secure Partner

Due to high 1:1 coaching demand, I’ve decided to bring my knowledge to a space where you can have all the tools and work at your own pace.

I’ll be sharing it publicly soon, but people on the waitlist will get first access and a discounted early-bird price.